Planners: Isabel Giovachhini and Kelly Szteinbaum
6:00 PM-6:30 PM: Arriving. Hang out until the majority of people arrive.
6:30 PM-6:45 PM: Pass the Picture Mixer: Everyone has a piece of paper, while I play music for 15 sec you have to draw a picture of anything you want. When the music stops you pass your paper and when I start the music again you have 15 sec to write a sentence about what you think the picture is. Then the music stops and u pass it again and draw what the sentence says. Every time you get the paper and add something to it fold over the previous drawings and sentences so all the next person sees is the drawing or sentence you just wrote. This will occur until everyone ends up with the paper they started with and sees what their picture’s story evolved into.
6:45 PM-7:15 PM: Salad and Smoothies: Eating right and staying healthy is a key part to a good body image, you can feel good about yourself because you are making good lifestyle choices. So we are going to make salads and fruit smoothies. We are going to count into 2’s, and each group will make a salad, that they are going to eat, from the ingredients required. Try not to make a huge mess because Kelly’s parents will be mad and we have to clean it up. While you are making the salads, decide as a group what type of smoothie you want and Kelly and I will make them for you. Then we will have time to eat them and chat.
7:15 PM-7:35 PM:Bad Sisterhood: Prior to the event Kelly will tell four people to act with bad sisterhood through the first two programs. Now we will get in a circle and ask if anyone as noticed the bad sisterhood, how it made them feel, and how we can have better sisterhood. 7:35 PM-8:00 PM:Havdallah and cheers
8:00 PM-8:15 PM: Partner MBA program: Everyone gets a partner, a piece of paper, and a pencil. Each person writes down things that you don’t like about yourself, then write down what qualities your partner has that you would like to have. These can be physical or emotional. Then you are going to share your lists. Everyone has things they don’t like about themselves and everyone feels insecure. But everyone has things that make them special and that other people want.
8:15 PM- 9:15 PM: Fashion Show/ Photoshoot: Who has ever wanted to be a model? Now is your chance. Everyone has a cute outfit or a dance costume from Kelly. Put on those outfits and get a partner that is going to do your hair and make-up. We have make-up and hair products. Make each other look really cute. Then we are going to have a photoshoot, everyone is going to strut down the runway like top models. After you walk the runway, Kelly is going to take five pictures of you, that will be in a slideshow shown later. They can be crazy, funny, or just modelesque. Lets cheer for everyone as they walk and have fun!
9:15 PM- 9:40 PM: Eating Disorders: (during discussion Kelly will go in her room and make the slide show with the pictures from the photoshoot, we can bring out spooey too for a comfort factor) We are going to split into 4 groups count off by fours. Each group gets a eating disorder. Leader of group explains the eating disorder, girls work together to write a diary entry in first person, of someone who has that eating disorder. We come back together and we share actual diary entries and discuss what it was like. Possibly show websites that support eating disorders for impact. *Look at the Diary Entries that are at the end of this outline*9:40 PM- 10:00 PM:T-shirts and crafts: Everyone goes around and signs each person’s shirt with a cute message. The shirts will already have two messages…one from Isabel and one from Kelly, and at this time friendship bracelets will be passed out to girls who displayed good sisterhood.
10:00 PM- 10:25 PM: Song Session: Vitamin C: Friends Forever Best Friend Hannah Montana: True Friend Lean On Me Arthur Theme Song Martina McBride: This One’s For The Girls Gilmore Girls Theme Song Kelly Pickler: Don’t You Know You’re Beautiful
10:30 PM – whenever G & W ends: Alternative Good and Welfare: When you speak you tell one story or thing at a time then let someone else go, and next time you hear a pause of speaking you may go again, as many times as you want . You should talk about anything and everything. Not only what’s going on right now, but anything from your life that troubles you, or that you want to talk about. Every time you speak you start by saying…with undying love for El Al BBG #1863.11:30 PM-11:35 PM: Slide Show: Show the slide show made with the pictures from the photoshoot around the computer. Then whoever wants to talk will set their sleeping bags up. After 12 only whispers!
The next day: have bagels, cream cheese, and orange juice for breakfast and send girls home.
NYTIMES Column written from personal experience:
It was 1964, I was 23 and working at my first newspaper job in Minneapolis, 1,250 miles from my New York home. My love life was in disarray, my work was boring, my boss was a misogynist. And I, having been raised to associate love and happiness with food, turned to eating for solace.
Of course, I began to gain weight and, of course, I periodically went on various diets to try to lose what I’d gained, only to relapse and regain all I’d lost and then some.
My many failed attempts included the Drinking Man’s Diet, popular at the time, which at least enabled me to stay connected with my hard-partying colleagues.
Before long, desperation set in. When I found myself unable to stop eating once I’d started, I resolved not to eat during the day. Then, after work and out of sight, the bingeing began.
I learned where the few all-night mom-and-pop shops were located so I could pick up the evening’s supply on my way home from work. Then I would spend the night eating nonstop, first something sweet, then something salty, then back to sweet, and so on. A half-gallon of ice cream was only the beginning. I was capable of consuming 3,000 calories at a sitting. Many mornings I awakened to find partly chewed food still in my mouth.
And, as you might expect, because I didn’t purge (never even heard of it then), I got fatter and fatter until I had gained a third more than my normal body weight, even though I was physically active.
My despair was profound, and one night in the midst of a binge I became suicidal. I had lost control of my eating; it was controlling me, and I couldn’t go on living that way.
Fortunately, I was still rational enough to reach out for help, and at 2 a.m. I called a psychologist I knew at his home. His willingness to see me in the morning got me through the night.
Just talking about my behavior and learning from the psychologist that I was not the only person with this problem helped relieve my despair. Still, he was not able to help me stop bingeing. That was something I would have to do on my own.
I finally reached the conclusion that if I kept eating that way, the dreadful foods would end up killing me. And I knew by then that diets were a disaster, something one goes on to go off, only to regain what one has lost. So I decided that if I was going to be fat, at least I was going to be healthy.
MONDAY Monday usually starts with a list of resolutions about what food I am not going to allow myself to eat in the next week. I want to control what I eat and get a feeling of excitement at the strict targets I set myself. When I am at college it is easy to do. The hard part starts when I get home from college. My family knows I have a problem and insist on family meal times. I started focusing on food when I was in my early teens. My parents divorced and I felt it was my fault. I felt unworthy and stopped eating. I felt I no longer deserved food and controlling what I ate would help me get control of my life. It became the only positive aspect of my life. I feel I have succeeded at something if I get through the day only eating what I have planned. If I don't succeed I have a voice in my head that tells me how bad and weak I am.
TUESDAY I stick to my eating plan again and I also cook a meal for myself and my mum. When I cook I usually make complicated dishes as I like dealing with food, but in the end don't have much myself. I try to avoid eating but not being around food. I will cook and watch cooking shows, surrounding myself with food, but not eating it makes me feel strong willed. I have set up strict rules for myself. I try not to eat before a certain time and after a certain time. I measure out everything, even the skimmed milk I put in my tea, and will restrict how much water I drink. It is a ritual and I feel scared when I can't do it, when my routine is disturbed. It's very important to me, it's about control and I don't like not to be in control.
WEDNESDAY Had an argument with a friend today. Not eating can make me irritable and snappy. I know I have lost friends over the years. Controlling my eating ends up controlling my life and that doesn't make me the most fun person to be with, or to live with. You can't rely on people anyway, but on food you can. I weigh myself at the same time each day. I do it when I get up as I will be at my lightest. I do it before having a shower because even having wet hair might make me weigh more. It's not about what I look like or what size clothes I wear, as I never want to show off my body anyway. It is about how much I weigh.
THURSDAY Another argument today, this time with my mom and sister. I know I am hard to live with and they worry. The row makes me feel low so I binge on bags of crisps, which makes me feel worse. I end up throwing up in the garden. I can't really do it in the house if they are there as they know and try and stop me. You get very clever about hiding stuff. I was referred to my local hospital for help a few years ago after my mum took me to the doctors. I weighed under 96.8, which was low for my height. I've had help and am now 105.6. Everyone wants me to gain more weight but this is as far as I can go. The help I get is focused on food and not why I control what I eat. Food is just the tool I use, the problem is something different but no one seems to want to listen to that.
FRIDAY I am cutting out even more stuff today to make up for my binge yesterday. If I have a craving for something like chocolate I will often just put it in my mouth to taste it but don't swallow it. It takes a lot of control to spit it out but I feel good when I do. I know I have improved my eating over the years and I am not so strict with myself, but I can't imagine a time when I won't think about what I am putting in my mouth. I know everyone around me wants me to be normal but what does that word mean anyway? Everyone I know worries about something and does stuff to make themselves feel better or to forget. My friends drink and take drugs, is controlling my eating any worse than that?
SATURDAY Go to the gym today. Exercise is also an important part of my life. It is all wrapped up with my eating. Often I feel quite faint after a session as I like to push myself but don't have much energy because I haven't eaten much. It's quite a nice feeling for me. Sometime I think of the health implications of what I do, but it is a fight between my head and my body. My body might be wanting food but my head is always questioning if I really need it and trying to talk me out of it. People tend to think anorexia is about being skinny because that's what the media says is good. For me, it's about something different. I don't want to show my body off, I want to feel as if I am good at something. I want to feel good about myself.
SUNDAY Sunday is the day when I assess how I have done and think about my targets for the following week. This week I feel quite proud of myself but if I've had a bad week I can feel quite low. New targets all depend on what I have managed the week before. I do wish I wasn't like this. But this is me, this is what goes on in my head and this is what I do to my body. I have had help but I know the changes have to come from within me and that's the frightening thing, I don't know if I can do it.