6:15 PM- 7:00 PM: Dinner: Pre-order Domino's pizza and have an older member pick it up (or get delivery) and eat it.
7:00 PM- 7:20 PM: Havdallah and cheers.
7:20 PM- 7:35 PM: Mixer: Condom Color Picks. Each girl chooses a color of a condom. Group girls according to the colors they chose. In each group, have each girl introduce herself and just talk to each other.
7: 35 PM- 8:00 PM: Diary program: Read diary entries back and forth. After each time, pop a balloon. Afterwards have a discussion about the story. Is this a common situation? Why does this happen? What can prevent this from happening? Was this surprising? Any comments? Etc. (*See end of outline for the diary entries)
8:00 PM- 8:30 PM: Banana and condoms tutorial.
8:30 PM- 9:10 PM: Split up into groups of 4. Each group is given condoms, bananas, balloons, tampons, a cup, and water. Each group must come up with some sort of challenge/task/relay race for another group to complete.
9:10 PM- 10:00 PM: STD Program/ Boy Good and Welfare. Read the 8 statements below (scroll down to find it), and have girls go to the right side if they say “yes” or “agree” with the statement and the left they say “no” or “disagree” with the statement. Afterwards, get all the girls into a circle and read statistics below and then have a discussion about the facts. Are they surprising or not? Why are the rates so high? Etc. Then after the discussion, have a popcorn-style good and welfare. Girls should ONLY talk about things relating to boys or sex, and girls do not have to talk if they don’t want to.
Send girls home after the good and welfare.
Diary Program:
----Dear diary, Josh and I went on such a romantic date tonight. We went to the park and had a picnic; he made peanut butter and jelly sandwiches, my favorite! After that, we went on a walk. The moon was full and bright, it was so romantic! When we got home, he kissed me softly. His lips pressed on my cheek and then gazed into my eyes. After we really made a connection, he kissed my lips, he held me tight and at that point, I knew it. (Pop) I fell for him. -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Dear diary, Jamie is so hott! I took things slow tonight, didn’t wanna freak her out too much! Phase 1 complete! -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- ----Dear diary, josh texted me at school today, he asked me to meet him after lunch at his locker. When I went there, he was standing there with a rose. It was so romantic! He said “this is for you”, handed me the rose, and pressed me up against the locker as we made out. It was so out of the blue, but I enjoyed it. I really enjoyed it! His tongue and mine touched and I knew it, (pop) I was not just another girl to him. -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Dear diary, I am so damn fly! The rose worked and she is one hell of a kisser! -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- ----Dear diary, Josh invited me to a party, and of course I did not turn him down! He gave me a drink but I don’t do that. Anyways, he was pretty drunk and asked me to go upstairs, I knew what he wanted but I wasn’t ready. (Pop) So instead, we just made out for a long time. ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ Dear diary, if only she had gotten drunk… ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ ----Dear diary, everyone is talking about josh and I! I never thought this would happen! Me and JOSH?! The quarter back? THE josh Bunden! Can you believe it? The boy I have been crushing on since sixth grade! The one that never talked to me before in my life! YES THAT JOSH BUNDEN! He is now mine, we are a thing, we are an item! Can you believe it diary? (Pop) I sure as hell can’t! ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ Dear diary, Jamie Turner… never saw that one coming ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- ----Dear diary, Josh asked me to go to another party, and I said yes once again. This time I held a drink in my hand so that people would stop offering me drinks. I decided to take a sip just to try it out and realized that it’s not that bad! Josh said he wouldn’t drink tonight so I can have fun and so that one of us can be responsible and get us home. (Pop) He is such a sweetheart! ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Dear diary, she is one funny drunk! -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Dear diary, Josh took me to ANOTHER PARTY! Can you believe me! Me showing up at 3 parties with JOSH BUNDEN! Omg! He said I could drink tonight, and he would be the dd, what a sweetheart, my parents told me not to go for guys three years older! Well aren’t they wrong? They are the sweetest! Josh and I went upstairs to joey’s room and started to make out on his bed. Slowly, my sweater came off. (Pop) I don’t remember much after that… ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Dear diary, HOLY SHIT! THAT GIRL IS GOOD! Her boobs are so nice and her body is so damn soft! When I took off her clothes, damn was I turned on! Hopefully the fact that I forgot a condom won’t matter… ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- ----Dear diary, josh and I went to his house and he unzipped his pants, I wasn’t really sure what to do… he told me I was a natural and I was pretty confused. I didn’t want to sound dumb around josh, the popular, senior quarterback, so I got on his bed and started to give him a hand job… when I tried to make out with him instead of giving him the hand job he grabbed my head and pushed it towards his dick. He told me to suck his dick, so I did as I was told. I wasn’t sure what I was doing but I couldn’t tell him no. (Pop) I was scared. -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Dear diary, Jamie called me today crying… I told her I had to go and that I would call her back, I forgot to call her back. Oh well. (Pop) -----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------Dear diary, my friend Taylor came up to me today and said that she couldn't believe what I did at the party last weekend. I was so confused because she also drinks and that's all I did. I asked her to explain instead of sounding like a hypocrite and she did. I found out that I had sex with Josh! She then suggested that I should take a pregnancy test and maybe even get checked for STDs. I got checked for STDs and I'm clean, but then the pregnancy test came along. I AM pregnant! I should have listened to my friends! They told me not to do anything stupid just because I had drank some alcohol! Josh won’t answer my calls! I don't know what to do! If I tell my parents they will tell me “I told you so” and “it’s your own fault”! I can’t handle that right now, I am only a FRESHMAN, my reputation is ruined, (pop) everyone hates me, and (pop) my life is ruined. (Pop) -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Dear diary, I am getting the hell out of this town, can’t deal with no baby mama! (Pop) -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
STD Statistics Program
Debrief: Go to one side of the room if you think/did…:
Seuss boys are cute.
Moad boys are cute.
Siwi boys are cute.
Hooked up with an AZA
Sex before marriage
Abortion should be legal
Some std’s can be treated
You feel comfortable asking your doctor to get tested for STD’s.
· More than half of all people will have an STD/STI at some point in their lifetime.
· The estimated total number of people living in the US with a viral STD/STI is over 65 million. [2] Every year, there are at least 19 million new cases of STDs/STIs, some of which are curable. [2,3]
More than $8 billion is spent each year to diagnose and treat STDs/STIs and their complications. This figure does not include HIV. [4]
Less than half of adults ages 18 to 44 have ever been tested for an STD/STI other than HIV/AIDS.
Each year, one in four teens contracts an STD/STI. [6]
One in two sexually active persons will contact an STD/STI by age 25. [7]
About half of all new STDs/STIs in 2000 occurred among youth ages 15 to 24. [8] The total estimated costs of these nine million new cases of these STDs/STIs was $6.5 billion, with HIV and human papillomavirus (HPV) accounting for 90% of the total burden. [9]
Of the STDs/STIs that are diagnosed, only some (gonorrhea, syphilis, chlamydia, hepatitis A and B) are required to be reported to state health departments and the CDC.
One out of 20 people in the United States will get infected with hepatitis B (HBV) sometime during their lives. [10] Hepatitis B is 100 times more infectious than HIV. [11]
Approximately half of HBV infections are transmitted sexually. [12] HBV is linked to chronic liver disease, including cirrhosis and liver cancer.
Hepatitis A, hepatitis B and HPV are the only vaccine-preventable STDs/STIs. (Not all HPV types are covered by the vaccine, so women who receive it still need Pap tests.)
It is estimated that as many as one in five Americans have genital herpes, a lifelong (but manageable) infection, yet up to 90 percent of those with herpes are unaware they have it. [13]
With more than 50 million adults in the US with genital herpes and up to 1.6 million new infections each year, some estimates suggest that by 2025 up to 40% of all men and half of all women could be infected. [14,15,16]
Over 6 million people acquire HPV each year, and by age 50, at least 80 percent of women will have acquired genital HPV infection. [17] Most people with HPV do not develop symptoms. Some researchers believe that HPV infections may self-resolve and may not be lifelong like herpes. [2]
Cervical cancer in women, while preventable through regular Paps, is linked to high-risk types of HPV.
Each year, there are almost 3 million new cases of chlamydia, many of which are in adolescents and young adults. [8] The CDC recommends that sexually active females 25 and under should be screened at least once a year for chlamydia, even if no symptoms are present.
About two-thirds of young females believe doctors routinely screen teens for chlamydia. [18] However, in 2003 only 30% of women 25 and under with commercial health care plans and 45% in Medicaid plans were screened for chlamydia. [19]
At least 15 percent of all American women who are infertile can attribute it to tubal damage caused by pelvic inflammatory disease (PID) , the result of an untreated STD. Consistent condom use reduces the risk of recurrent PID and related complications: significantly, women who reported regular use of condoms in one study were 60 percent less likely to become infertile. [20]
Consistent condom use provides substantial protection against the acquisition of many STDs, including statistically significant reduction of risk against HIV, chlamydia, gonorrhea, herpes, and syphilis. [21,22,23]
Some studies show that, for those who already have a clinically apparent genital HPV infection, using condoms promotes the regression of HPV lesions in both women and men. [24,25]